Here's a random list of authors, who have written in an empathetic and understanding way about how people are seriously damaged during their childhood, birth and their prenatal life in the womb.
- The Drama of the Gifted Child, (1978, revised in 1995) - Prisoners of Childhood (1981) - For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence (1983) - Thou Shalt Not Be Aware: Society's Betrayal of the Child (1984) - Banished Knowledge: Facing Childhood Injuries - The Untouched Key: Tracing Childhood Trauma in Creativity and Destructiveness - Pictures of a Childhood: Sixty-six Watercolors and an Essay - Paths of Life: Seven Scenarios (1998) - Breaking Down the Wall of Silence: The Liberating Experience of Facing Painful Truth - The Truth Will Set You Free: Overcoming Emotional Blindness (2001) - The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Effects of Cruel Parenting (2005) - Free From Lies: Discovering Your True Needs (2009)
http://www.arthurjanov.com - The Primal Scream (1970, 1999) - The Anatomy of Mental Illness (1971) - The Primal Revolution: Toward a Real World (1972) - The Feeling Child (1973) - Primal Man: The New Consciousness (1976) - Prisoners of Pain (1980) - Imprints: The Lifelong Effects of the Birth Experience (1984) - New Primal Scream: Primal Therapy 20 Years on (1992) - Why You Get Sick and How You Get Well: The Healing Power of Feelings (1996) - The Biology of Love (2000) - Grand Delusions: Psychotherapies Without Feeling (2005, online) - Sexualité et subconscient : Perversions et déviances de la libido (2006) - Primal Healing: Access the Incredible Power of Feelings to Improve Your Health (2006) - The Janov Solution: Lifting Depression Through Primal Therapy (2007)
- Bradshaw On: The Family (1986, 1996) - Bradshaw On: Healing the Shame that Binds You (1988) - Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child (1990) - Creating Love (1992) - Family Secrets (1995) - Reclaiming Virtue: How To Develop The Moral Intelligence to Do The Right Thing At The Right Time For the Right Reason (2008)
- Healing the Child Within: Discovery and Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families (1987) - A Gift to Myself: A Personal Guide to Healing My Child Within (1990) - Co-Dependence: Healing the Human Condition (1991) - Boundaries and Relationships: Knowing, Protecting, and Enjoying the Self (1994) - Memory and Abuse: Remembering and Healing the Effects of Trauma (1995) - The Truth About Depression: Choices for Healing (2003) - Misinformation Concerning Child Sexual Abuse and Adult Survivors (2002) - My Recovery: A Personal Plan for Healing (2003) - The Truth About Mental Illness: Choices for Healing (2004) - The Power of Humility: Choosing Peace Over Conflict in Relationships (2006)
- Intimate Violence: The Causes and consequences of Abuse in the American Family (1988) - Beating the Devil Out of Them: Corporal Punishment in American Children (1994, 2001) - Behind Closed Doors: Violence in the American Family (2006)
Thomas Stone
- Cure by Crying: How to Cure Your Own, Depression, Nervousness, Headaches, Violent Temper, Insomnia, Marital Problems, Addictions by Uncovering Your Repressed Memories (1997) -Review: http://primal-page.com/crycure.htm
- Betrayal of Innocence (1978, 1988) - Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You (1998) - Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life (1990, 2001)
- Alice Miller: Discoveries and Contradictions (2008) - Beyond Medication: Therapeutic Engagement and the Recovery from Psychosis (with David Garfield) (2008) - Take These Broken Wings (documentary) (2008) - From Trauma to Self Enlightenment: Self-Therapy in Twelve Steps (2009) - Toward Truth: A Psychological Guide to Enlightenment (2010) - A Way Out of Madness: Dealing with Your Family After You've Been Diagnosed with a Psychiatric Disorder (with Matthew Morrissey) (2010)
- The Myth of Mental Illness: Foundations of a Theory of Personal Conduct (1961) - The Manufacture of Madness: A Comparative Study of the Inquisition and the Mental Health Movement (1970) - The Myth of Psychotherapy: Mental Unraveling as Craziness, Rhetoric, and Oppression (1978) - Cruel Compassion: Psychiatric Control of Society's Unwanted (1996) - Psychiatry: The Science of Lies (2008)
- Toxic Psychiatry: Why Therapy, Empathy and Love Must Replace the Drugs, Electroshock, and Biochemical Theories of the "New Psychiatry" (1991) - Beyond Conflict: From Self-Help and Psychotherapy to Peacemaking (1992) - Talking Back to Ritalin: What Doctors Aren't Telling You About Stimulants and ADHD. Revised (2001) - The Heart of Being Helpful: Empathy and the Creation of a Healing Presence (2006)
Konrad Stettbacher
- Making Sense of Suffering: The Healing Confrontation with Your Own Past (1994)
- The Assault on Truth :Freud's Suppression of the Seduction Theory (1985) - A Dark Science: Women, Sexuality, and Psychiatry in the Nineteenth
Century (1986) - Against Therapy: Emotional Tyranny and the Myth of Psychological Healing (1988, 1993) - Final Analysis: the Making and Unmaking of a Psychoanalyst (1991)
Daniel Stern
- The First Relationship: Infant and Mother (1977, 2002, 2004) - The Interpersonal World of the Infant: A View from Psychoanalysis and Development (1985, 1998, 2000) - Diary of a Baby: What Your Child Sees, Feels, And Experiences (1990) - Motherhood Constellation: A Unified View of Parent-Infant Psychotherapy (1995) - Birth of a Mother: How the Experience of Motherhood Changes You for Ever (1998) - The Present Moment in Psychotherapy and Everyday Life (2004)
Frederique Leboyer
- Birth Without Violence (1975, 2009) - Loving Hands: The Traditional Art of Baby Massage (1976) - Inner Beauty, Inner Light (1978) - Birth Without Violence (2008) - The Art of Giving Birth (2009)
- The Problem Family (1949) - The Free Child (1953) - Summerhill: A Radical Approach to Child Rearing (1960, 1995) - Children's Rights: Toward the Liberation of the Child (1971)
- The Philosophical Baby: What Children's Minds Tell Us About Truth, Love, and the Meaning of Life (2009) - How Babies Think: The Science of Childhood (2001) - The Scientist in the Crib: What Early Learning Tells Us About the Mind (2000) - Words, Thoughts, and Theories (Learning, Development, and Conceptual Change) (1998)
- The Language of the Body (1958) - Love and Orgasm (1965) - The Betrayal of the Body (1967) - Pleasure (1970) - Bioenergetics (1976) - Depression and the Body: The Biological Basis of Faith and Reality (1977) - The Way to Vibrant Health: A Manual of Bioenergetic Exercises, co-author Leslie Lowen (1977) - Fear of Life (1980) - Narcissism: Denial of the True Self (1984) - Love, Sex and Your Heart (1988) - The Spirituality of the Body (1990) - Joy (1995) - Honoring the Body: The Autobiography of Alexander Lowen (2004) - The Voice of the Body (2005)
- Soul Murder: Persecution in the Family (1973) - The Story of Ruth (1981)
Leonard Shengold
- Soul Murder: The Effects of Childhood Abuse and Deprivation (1991) - Father, Don't You See I`m Burning?: Reflections on Sex, Narcissism, Symbolism, and Murder: From Everything to Nothing (1991) - The Boy Will Come to Nothing!: Freud`s Ego Ideal and Freud as Ego Ideal (1993) - Is There Life Without Mother? Psychoanalysis, Biography, Creativity (2000) - Soul Murder Revisited: Thoughts about Therapy, Hate, Love, and Memory (2000) - Haunted by Parents (2007)
- Psychoanalytic Diagnosis: Understanding Personality Structure in the Clinical Process (1994) - Psychoanalytic Case Formulation (1999) - Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy: A Practitioner's Guide (2004)
- Angry Adolescents (1969) - Religious Thinking from Childhood to Adolescence (1968) - Show Me Yours: Children Talking About Sex (1988) - Show Me Yours: Understanding Children's Sexuality (1988) - Questioning Circumcision: A Jewish Perspective (1997) - Circumcision, The Hidden Trauma: How an American Cultural Practice Affects Infants and Ultimately Us All (1997)
Peter Roger Breggin (born May 11, 1936)
is an American psychiatrist
and critic of biological psychiatry and psychiatric medication. In his books,
he advocates replacing psychiatry's use of drugs and electroconvulsive therapy with humanistic
and caring psychotherapy, education,
and broader human services.
Breggin is the author of Toxic Psychiatry, Talking Back to
Prozac, Talking Back to Ritalin, The Ritalin Fact Book,
and The Heart of Being Helpful. His most recent book, Brain-Disabling
Treatments in Psychiatry, deals with medication spellbinding (in
which patients who are doing worse after treatment fail to see that they
are doing worse or recognize why),
the adverse effects of drugs and electroconvulsive therapy (ECT), the
hazards of diagnosing and medicating children, the psychopharmaceutical
complex, and guidelines for psychotherapy and counseling.
Breggin, P.R. (2008). Medication Madness: A Psychiatrist Exposes
the Dangers of Mood-Altering Medications. New York: St. Martin's
Press.
Breggin, P.R. (2008). Brain-Disabling Treatments in Psychiatry:
Drugs, Electroshock and the Psychopharmaceutical Complex, Second
Edition. New York: Springer Publishing Company.
Breggin, P.R. and Cohen, D. (2007). Your Drug May Be Your
Problem: How and Why to Stop Taking Psychiatric Medications, Second
Edition. Cambridge: Perseus Books.
Breggin, P.R. Breggin, G.R., and Bemak, F. (Editors) (2002). Dimensions
of Empathic Therapy. New York: Springer Publishing Company.
Breggin, P.R. (2002). The Ritalin Fact Book: What Your Doctor
Won't Tell You. Cambridge: Perseus Books.
Breggin, P.R. (2001). The Anti-Depressant Fact Book: What Your
Doctor Won't Tell You About Prozac, Zoloft, Paxil, Celexa, and Luvox.
Cambridge: Perseus Books.
Breggin, P.R. (2001). Talking Back to Ritalin: What Doctors
Aren't Telling You About Stimulants and ADHD. Revised. Cambridge:
Perseus Books.
Breggin, P.R. (2000). Reclaiming Our Children: A Healing Solution
for a Nation in Crisis. Cambridge: Perseus Books.
Breggin, P.R. and Ginger, G.R. (1998). The war against children
of color. Psychiatry Targets Inner City Youth. Monroe, Maine: Common
Courage Press.
Breggin, P.R. (1997). The Heart of Being Helpful: Empathy and the
Creation of a Healing Presence. New York: Spinger Publishing
Company.
Breggin, P.R. (1992). Beyond Conflict: From Self-Help and
Psychotherapy to Peacemaking. New York: St. Martin's Press.
Breggin, P.R. and Breggin, G. R. (1994). Talking Back To Prozac:
What Doctors Aren't Telling You About Today's Most Controversial Drug.
New York: St. Martin's Press.
Breggin, P.R. (1991). Toxic Psychiatry: Why Therapy, Empathy and
Love Must Replace the Drugs, Electroshock, and Biochemical Theories of
the "New Psychiatry" New York: St. Martin's Press
Frederick Leboyer (born November 1, 1918) is a French
obstetrician, best known for his 1975 book, Birth Without Violence, which popularized gentle birthing
techniques, in particular, the practice of immersing newly-born infants in
a small tub of warm water — known as a "Leboyer bath" — to help ease
the transition from the womb to the outside world. He graduated from the University of Paris School of Medicine.
The book "Birth Without Violence" can be read here. (PDF) An excerpt:
"Do you believe that birth is an enjoyable experience "for the baby?"
"Birth?... Enjoyable?"
"You heard me! Do you believe that babies feel happy coming into this
world?"
"You're joking."
"Why should I be joking?"
"Because babies are just babies."
"What is that supposed to mean?"
"That babies aren't capable of intense feeling."
"What makes you so certain?"
"Babies don't have fully developed feelings."
"How do you know?"
"Well, don't you agree?"
"If I did, I wouldn't be asking."
"But everybody knows they don't."
"Since when has that ever been a good reason to believe anything?"
"True. But newborn babies can't see or even hear, so how can they feel
unhappy?"
"Even if they can't see or hear, that doesn't stop them from crying
their hearts out."
"A baby has to test its lungs. That's common knowledge."
"Nonsense."
"Well, that's what people say."
"People say all kinds of stupid things. But do you really believe that
babies feel nothing at all while they're being born?"
Bibliography
Birth Without Violence (1975)
Loving Hands: The Traditional Art of Baby Massage (1976)
Inner Beauty, Inner Light (1978)
Birth Without Violence (DVD, re-released 2008 through New
Earth Records)
Dr. Arthur Janov is one of the world's leading psychologists and
author of 11 books, including the international bestseller, The Primal
Scream and his newest book, Primal Healing, published in November 2006.
He is the Founder and Director of the Primal Center in Santa Monica,
California. He has been elected to the Academic Hall of Fame of
Claremont Graduate University.
Dr. Janov received his B.A. and M.S.W. in psychiatric social work
from the University of California, Los Angeles and his Ph.D. in
psychology from Claremont Graduate School. Before turning to Primal
Therapy, he practiced conventional psychotherapy in his native
California. He did an internship at the Hacker Psychiatric Clinic in
Beverly Hills, worked for the Veterans' Administration at Brentwood
Neuro-psychiatric Hospital and was in private practice for 1952 till
1967. He was also on the staff of the Psychiatric Department at Los
Angeles Children's Hospital where he was involved in developing their
psychosomatic unit.
The course of Dr. Janov's professional life changed in a single day
in the mid-1960's with the discovery of Primal Pain. During a therapy
session, he heard (as he describes it), "an eerie scream welling up from
the depths of a young man who was lying on the floor". He came to
believe that this scream was the product of some unconscious, intangible
wound that the patient was unable to resolve. Since then, Dr. Janov has
devoted his professional life to the investigation of that underlying
pain and the development of a precise, scientific therapy that could
mitigate its lifelong effects.
Dr. Janov has been conducting revolutionary research in the field
of psychotherapy for more than three decades. As the originator of
Primal Therapy, he has treated thousands of patients and conducted
extensive research to support his thesis that both physical and psychic
ailments can be linked to early trauma. He has concluded that patients
can dramatically reduce such debilitating medical problems as
depression, anxiety, insomnia, alcoholism, drug addiction, heart disease
and many other serious diseases. In 1970 he introduced his radical new
approach to therapy to the general public in his first book, The Primal
Scream, which became a best-seller and has since sold more than a
million copies worldwide.
In the last 30 years Primal Therapy has established itself as the
only therapy producing deep changes in a host of psychosomatic symptoms
and psychological problems. As Director and Supervisor of Research with
the Primal Foundation Laboratory, Dr. Janov was the first psychologist
to submit his results to scientific scrutiny. Studies at Rutgers, the
University of Copenhagen, St. Bartholomew's Hospital in England and the
University of California at Los Angeles have all supported his theory
that Primal Therapy can produce measurable positive effects on the
function of the human brain and body.
Dr. Janov and his wife, Dr. France D. Janov, co-director at the
Primal Center, have lectured worldwide on Primal Theory and Primal
Therapy, including to the Royal College of Medicine, London, England;
Hunter College, New York; Karolinska Medical and Research Center,
Stockholm, Sweden. His work has also been the subject of a PBS special
in the United States and of documentaries in Germany, England, France
and Sweden.
The latest research conducted at Dr. Janov's Primal Center on the
effects of Primal Therapy on the brain was performed by Dr. Erik
Hoffman, former Professor of Neurophysiology at Copenhagen University.
This research has shown very clear changes in the brain as a result of
feeling.
Dr. Janov has authored twelve books. His latest is "The Janov
Solution, Lifting Depression through Primal Therapy- published
September 2007. These books have been translated into twenty-four
languages, throughout the world.
In 1989 in an effort to expand the Primal network, Dr. Janov
established Dr. Janov's Primal Center in Santa Monica, California with
his wife, Dr. France Janov.
We recognize the great need for therapists and therapy in the
world. It is to that end that Dr. Janov's Primal Center was established
in 1989 as a treatment, training, and research center under Dr. Arthur
Janov's personal supervision. All the therapists here have had years of
intense training with us and are all caring professionals. There are
also other therapists who practice independently, outside the Center who
have completed the training and maintain an association with us. You
should verify credentials to practice Primal Therapy through our office.
Imprints: The Lifelong Effects of the Birth Experience (1984)
New Primal Scream: Primal Therapy 20 Years on (1992)
Why You Get Sick and How You Get Well: The Healing Power of
Feelings (1996)
The Biology of Love (2000)
Grand Delusions—Psychotherapies Without Feeling (2005);
unpublished manuscript available at the Primal Center's website
Sexualité et subconscient : Perversions et déviances de la libido
(2006)
Primal Healing: Access the Incredible Power of Feelings to
Improve Your Health (2006)
The Janov Solution: Lifting Depression Through Primal Therapy
(2007)
From Primal Healing:
Case Study: Nathan (page 120 -
122)
I've been on edge lately.
Actually, I've been losing it really, but with good reason. Everyone is
conspiring against me, even the therapists. That is how I went into my
session on Tuesday. So you think I'm smoking dope again, and you told
all the other therapists and everyone now hates me. Valerie (my
therapist) didn't respond much, except to say, "How does that make you
feel?" I'm always getting screwed; somebody is always out to get me. I'm
always getting blamed for something, and everyone always ends up hating
me for some reason or another. As I'm saying this, I start to feel a
knot of tension in my stomach and a deep sadness. My eyes start to get
blurry, and it's hard for me to talk. What's happening? Valerie says
that I feel that I'm not good enough, I can't do enough, and nothing I
do will ever be enough! I can't please everyone. I can't be perfect! I
start to break down and cry. The feeling keeps penetrating and my
crying becomes serious. I lose all sense of time, and then out of the
blue, this flashback pops into my head. I'm in high school during
computer class hiding my face in my arms and pretending to sleep while
everyone else is busy doing their work. I was miserable back then, and I
would usually spend my days in class sleeping or pretending to sleep.
The teacher called me up to her desk, and I was thinking, "Oh shit, I'm
in trouble again," or maybe she was going to ask me if something's
wrong. That's what I wanted her to say: "Is something wrong Nathan?
What's the matter? Can I help you? You can talk to me, I'll listen." But
no, she asked me some stupid question about my homework, I answered and
went back to my desk to sleep. Now the tears are pouring because
nobody can see how much I hurt, nobody wants to help me, nobody cares,
and I feel worthless! My muscles start to clench and I start to cough. I
cough and cough and cough, to the point where it feels like I'm going
to vomit. But I don't. A pressure seems to release after these coughing
fits and I just lay there limp and flooded with tears. I calm down a bit
and Valerie says, "Ask for help." "No, I don't want to!" "Ask." "No,
I don't want to; they should have been able to tell. They should have
been able to see how much pain I was in, how hurt I was." "Ask." "Help
me! Please help me! I need help!" And I'm back in it, full blown
crying, spasms, muscles tensing up, and coughing. It goes on like this
until I remember that phone call I made. Just a few days ago, on
Mother's Day, when out of guilt more than anything, I called my mom.
"Happy Mother's Day," I said. But all heard back was how well my brother
is doing. He just bought a new motorcycle, he just got a new dog, he
just did this, he just did that. And I feel like shit, because my life
is shit, and I can't get it together. She just keeps rubbing it in,
making me feel worthless. Nothing I do is good enough. I can't do
anything right; I'm such a disappointment! Here come the tears again. I
realize that these present-day feelings stem from this. These memories
of being neglected and manipulated all my life. But not only that, as
the session winds down, my therapist tells me that she didn't think I
was smoking dope, and she didn't tell the other therapists anything like
that. It was all in my head! The animosity isn't real, the conspiracy
isn't real, everyone against me isn't real. It was all just a feeling,
me acting out a feeling. And for me that is the hardest thing to take.
Realizing that my feeling's distort reality so much that I can't even
tell what is real anymore, and then realizing that I have been doing
that my entire life. Repeating this vicious cycle over and over and
over. I think of how much time I've wasted chasing these false ideas.
All the untrue things my feelings led me to believe and how it has made
my life a complete mess. But I feel relieved as the session ends,
like some weight has just been lifted. And that is what makes this
therapy so amazing. It is what makes these therapists so amazing. They
are able to pull these things out of you, things you didn't even know
were there and not only recognize them but feel them so you can change
them and rebuild your life, a real life.
Case Study: Daryl—Three Non-Feeling
Therapies
In cognitive behavioral therapy, the therapist focused almost
exclusively on asking me to "change my negative thoughts" to more
positive thoughts. For example, I was feeling very negative toward
myself at the time this therapy occurred, and I would find this kind of
self-talk happening within myself: "I'm a failure in my career." The
therapist would ask me to "re-word" this statement to myself to say,
"I'm not succeeding in my career at the present time." Well, this did
not help at all. In fact, I simply got all jumbled in a lot of
mechanistic ways of trying to handle internal problems that only ended
in frustration and discouragement.
Another key approach of this cognitive behavioral therapist was to
present me with a list of 12 "should" statements that people tend to
use. Then, she would ask me to repeat the statement without using the
word "should." For example, one of the original statements might have
been, "I should be more competent." She would ask me to re-phrase this
to say, "I am competent." Of course, this did not help at all because I
did not, in fact, become any more competent by simply saying, "I am
competent. " Much of her approach revolved around convincing me of the
irrationality of my behavior in using "should" statements. To a great
extent, she provided me with a list of rules and asked me to obey those
rules. This approach completely ignored the feelings below the surface
that were driving me to feel what I felt and, therefore, to say what I
would say. Her approach did not take into account the principle of
repression.
This therapist became very frustrated working with me. In fact, she
discounted and denied the role of feelings in the therapeutic process. I
reacted to her approach by being frustrated, discouraged, and
disillusioned because her approach did not work for me.
In Jungian therapy, the therapist introduced me to the classical
concepts within Jungian psychology: archetypes, anima, animus,
collective unconscious, persona, shadow, active imagination, guided
imagery, the Self, and interpretation of dreams. He also tried to stay
within the classical Jungian psychological model in his therapeutic
approach with me. He was a very intellectual person himself, and my
gaining an understanding of these primary concepts was important to him.
Therefore, he spent a lot of time with me in simply helping me to
understand all of these Jungian terms and concepts. He did acknowledge
and recognize the principle of repression, and he said that those things
that have been repressed are now in "your shadow." His whole approach
resulted in one prerequisite to healing on the part of the patient: the
patient must have an understanding of these terms, concepts, and
principles. His premise was simple: once the patient gains an
understanding of her/his problem and these Jungian concepts, healing
will naturally occur. So, understanding automatically brings healing.
But, in my case, understanding did not bring healing. Understanding
brought mental gymnastics. The process of gaining an intellectual
understanding brought a false illusion of healing. I frequently said to
myself, "Now that I have an intellectual (intelligent) understanding of
what the problems are within me, I will be cured. I had this belief over
and over, but it never did bring about true healing. Instead, it
brought about a temporary false sense of confidence that "now I've got
the problem nailed down, I will be okay."
The Jungian approach helped only temporarily and then, only
slightly. However, each time I came to understand the problem, I truly
thought that I would be cured. It never happened. As a result I became
discouraged and disillusioned. In fact, the process of intellectualizing
actually slowed down the healing process in that it covered over the
real feelings that needed to be felt.
In Gestalt therapy, the therapist gave an initial impression that
feelings would play a primary role in my therapy. In fact, they never
did. Gestalt therapy, for me, ended up somewhere in between cognitive
behavioral and Jungian therapy. My Gestalt therapist made use of role
playing as a way of trying to help me gain insights into my behavior. At
times, she would say, "I want you to play your father and use this
scenario." At other times, she would ask me to play the role of the boss
with whom I was having difficulty at that particular time. In all
cases, the role-playing scenarios did nothing to bring about healing.
The therapist was very impressed with her approach and what she thought
was happening, but I was not experiencing anything significant in terms
of real progress. Therefore, over a period of six months to a year, I
became discouraged and disillusioned with the process. In fact, I lost
confidence in this particular approach as well as in the therapist. She
sensed my frustration and this caused friction in our relationship.
Eventually, I discontinued my therapy with this therapist.
In conclusion, let me comment on what I see as the need for patients
to evaluate and provide feedback to the therapist. It would be so
simple for therapists of all psychological approaches to develop an
evaluation/feedback form in order to seek feedback on how the
therapeutic process is going. What the therapist thinks is occurring
might not be the case at all.
Feeling better is fine. But we must keep in mind that the caring we get
now cannot make up for the lack of it when it was critical. The critical
period has passed. If it hadn't, then the doctor's caring would heal
us. Because it is after the critical period, it is only palliative. It
may help stabilize a shaky defense system, but it never eradicates need.
I will repeat ad nauseam: we cannot love neurosis away. Even if we
could resurrect Momma and have her kiss and hug her grown-up child, no
amount of love in the present can reverse the damage. That is why a
kindly therapist, who is concerned and interested, cannot re-establish
equilibrium in his patient. No amount of his caring and insights will
induce any profound change. No psychotherapy can alter those needs, nor
can the drug-taking or other act-outs they drive, once they are sealed
in. More broadly, we must keep in mind the futility of using ideas to
treat the effects of deeply ingrained traumas. As we shall see, it is
not possible to use ideas and thinking processes, which literally came
along millions of years later in the evolution of brain development, to
affect what is lower in the brain and evolved millions of years earlier.
(page 52)
No amount of fulfilment later on can replace an early
deficit of love and caring. This means that no amount of caring by a
therapist can produce any profound change in the patient. She is long
past her critical period. To repeat: you cannot love neurosis away. Of
course, caring in the present can act as a holding action, keeping the
real deprivation at bay for a short time; it tranquilizes but cannot be
curative. And it has to be tranquilized all of the time lest the pain
surge forth. That is why many patients seek conventional therapy ad
infinitum. (page 109)
There is a book called The Blank Slate by
Steven Pinker. (4) Dr. Pinker is a well-known writer on matters of the
brain. His specialty is cognitive neuroscience. ("Cognitive
neuroscience" seems to be one more oxymoron. If neuroscience limits
itself to the study of the thinking brain, the rest of the central
nervous system and its interrelationships with the thinking area are
likely to be ignored.) Pinker claims throughout his work that nurture,
the environment, is never a match for nature—what we inherit. He points
out that criminals are rarely rehabilitated, which is proof, he
believes, that criminal tendencies must be inherited. What he does not
consider is first, the impact of early life shaping future criminals,
and second, that perhaps our treatment of criminals is what is wrong,
particularly when he is an advocate of the cognitive approach, which is
bound to fail with criminals. The logic then continues: because we
cannot make the criminal well, it must be because it is an inherited
tendency. Naturally, this reasoning doesn't put his therapeutic approach
into question. Few, if any, professionals have seen the depths of the
unconscious and observed the pain imprinted there. Therefore, they
cannot know what nurture really is and what it can do to us. This is
doubly true when the months of gestation and the first months of infancy
are ignored. Because there is hardly any cognition going on, to speak
of, in the first three years of life, when cognition is the focus, one
is bound to ignore the most crucial formative times in life. (page
129/130)
I must hasten to add a caveat here. Nearly every
cognitive/insight talk therapy fills the needs of the patient
symbolically. The patient is acting neurotically in the hope of getting
well. She is being a good, smart, helpful patient. The therapist is
focusing only on her. How long has it been since someone paid exclusive
attention to her? And for an hour! Is it any wonder that her therapy is
addicting; the insights are a small adjunct to it all. The attention is
preponderant. I point out elsewhere that the choice of the therapy is
often another act-out. The patient is going back for love, caring, and
approval. She gets it and it is another symbolic act, and therefore her
neurosis is reinforced. The therapist gives us exactly what we needed
from our parents; it is, unfortunately, 20 or 30 years too late. It is a
bottomless pit that no one can fill. (page 135)
Constantly being
on the move is a good example of this act-out; a mad flight from the
feeling, just as others who feel as if they are failures are in a
desperate search to try to feel like a winner. As I have noted, the
definition of an act-out is behaving out of unfulfilled needs.
Unfulfilled needs start the accelerator going. Even in depression, which
looks like total lethargy and passivity, there is a highly active
system. (page 137)
It is easy to become entangled in a mesh of
thoughts that bind us, the more labyrinthine the better—hence the
attraction of insight therapy. One is now a captive of those beliefs,
and he enters into his slavery willingly, because this slavery is also
an important defense. If fascism were ever to come to America, it would
no doubt come by popular vote not by autocratic edict. We would slip
into unquestioning obedience to the leader gladly, for it would relieve
us of having to think for ourselves. He would protect us from the evil
"out there." I am reminded of those who dive for sharks in steel cages.
They have no freedom of movement but it is a fact that the sharks cannot
get to them. Their steel cage is their defense and their prison.
Chemical prisons are just as strong as those steel ones. They allow for
few alternatives in behavior. Beliefs are the psychic equivalent of
repression. We can rechannel the flow but we will not change the
volcanic activity. We can cap the explosion with ideas, but there is
always a danger of another eruption; sometimes it is in the form of a
seizure, other times it is found in being seized by a sudden
realization—finding God and being born again. (page 178)
In
rebirthing or LSD therapy, the patient is plunged into early remote
pains; too often the result is incipient or transient psychosis. One of
our patients went to a weekend meditation group that practiced deep
breathing. (This was without our knowledge. It is forbidden in our
therapy, for obvious reasons.) He came back to us in pieces, totally
symbolic, speaking of cosmic forces and past lives. That deep breathing
weakened his defenses and opened the gates artificially. The overload
threw him into symbolism as the frontal cortex struggled to make sense
out of liberated pains that were not ready to be felt and integrated.
(page 183)
If we follow evolution and allow feeling before ideas
in psychotherapy, then we cannot go wrong. If we defy evolution, and use
ideas before feelings, then we must, perforce, go wrong. The same is
true for those rebirthers who decide to plunge patients into remote and
devastating pains right away in psychotherapy. There is no integration
because the valence is so heavy and the pains are thrown up out of
sequence. The same is true for those who use drugs and hallucinogens to
get to deep early feelings. The system cannot possibly integrate (even
though often the patient and therapist are convinced that progress has
taken place). Integration means a slow descent from the present and top
level prefrontal cortex to lower limbic/feeling areas and finally to the
deeply rooted and engraved imprints around birth and infancy. We need
to prepare the soil for heavy pains. When they intrude suddenly into the
top level, there is of necessity a disintegration taking place. We see
this in our vital sign research where signs go up and then down
sporadically without any cohesion to them. They tell us there is no
integration. (page 205)
A person is suspicious of being hurt by
others because he was hurt so badly by insensitive parents; in Dan's
case, a cruel mother. He projected this fear onto others who he thought
wanted to hurt him. Dan was slightly paranoid at the start of therapy,
questioning even the nice things he would hear. "Did you really mean it?
I thought you were putting me on." His suspicions went from the
personal and idiosyncratic (his mother in the past), to the general
(everyone else in the present). "They" are trying to hurt me. When we
took Dan back from the universal "they" and transformed it into a
personal "me," the paranoid ideas were diminished or eliminated. The
general had become the particular, which then produced a general law.
(page 211)
If the therapist has the need to be helpful and get
"love" from the patient, he can act this out in therapy. I remember
feeling my need to become a therapist and be helpful, trying
symbolically to help my mentally ill mother to get well and be a real
mother. No one is exempt from symbolic behavior. And it is certainly
more comfortable for a patient to act out his needs and get them
fulfilled (symbolically) in therapy, and imagine he is getting
somewhere, than to feel the pain of lack of fulfillment. It is
understandable that the idea of lying on a matted floor crying and
screaming doesn't appeal to some. Pain is not always an enticing
prospect. Thus, the cognitive/insight therapist can be similarly
deceived and entangled in the same delusion as his patient: both getting
love for being smart. It is a mutually deceptive unconscious pact.
(page 227)
Religion puts a moral slant on our hidden "evil"
forces, but it amounts to the same thing. Psychology becomes religion by
another name. If not, what are those impulses? Where do they come from?
Are they immutable forces that cannot be changed? If not, how do we
change them? Their leitmotif is that demons live inside of us that shall
remain unalterable and nameless, a kind of genetic evil. We are born
with it, and that is that. Here is where the cognitivists join the
Freudians, who join the Jungians, who join the priests in thinking our
main job is to hold down these dark, evil shadow forces. The reason that
so many psychologists consider those negative forces immutable is that
not having deep access, there is truly no way to change them, hence they
are immutable. This is an example of circular logic. (page 228/229)
The
following are two patients with two different kinds of compulsions. The
first, a woman who must hang all her shirts in the same direction. She
gets very nervous if one shirt isn't hanging right. The insight in her
feeling was, "I could never get it right. Nothing I could do would make
my parents say, 'You've done a good job.'" As it is with her shirts, she
had to check over and over again because she still felt she didn't get
it right. She was acting out symbolically, "Everything I do is wrong.
Nothing I can do will make them approve and love me." Another patient is
addicted to video games. It is not something he just plays; he is
addicted and must do it. Why? To feel like a winner. No matter how many
times he won, however, he still felt like a loser, something his father
called him constantly. He was trying to shake that feeling, but never
could. In life he felt like a failure; he didn't know what else to do to
get rid of that feeling. He chose, as in every neurosis, a symbolic
channel. Until he felt in a session over and over again, "I'm not a
failure, Daddy. Say I'm good— just once!" Feeling that stopped the
act-out; he had to feel that many times. (page 252)
From Prisoners of Pain: I use to believe in God but now I understand my
religion was more or less an attempt to get closer to my dad, who was a
devoted, if not dedicated Christian. That would have the way to close the gap
between us, the way to look in his inner life and to show him mine. When I told
him enthusiastically about my believe (enthusiasm based on hope I would finally
get the answer I desired), no reaction came. It was like I casually had said
something. Looking back I realized that from that moment I rejected the whole Christianity. What I intensely had hoped to get from my father, I hoped to get
the same from God. I needed someone who could see my Pain, someone I could turn
to and talk in confidence with. No one in my environment was like that, so God
became that one. I couldn't bear the Pain I was surrendered to, but that became
the burden of an Almighty. All I needed was someone who could understand me;
and if someone by definition could understand everything, the better it was.
God was the father I wanted to have. God was the father in the sense of an
enlightened authority, and Christ was the father of friendship and hope.
Because I hadn't succeeded to win my father for me by joining him in his
'cage', I stepped out determined and started to pound the bars. I wanted to challenge
him to an open reaction from man to man. I got involved in the left-wing
politics. It's clear to me where I'm standing now that my involvement in this
area (not to mention the objective correctness of my motive) was neurotically
motivated. My passionate struggle against the establishment was a symbolic
reflection of the struggle with my father. By attempting to make the
establishment act justified by pointing on society's injustice, I know that in
reality I was trying to push him awake to tell him: 'Look at me, dad; look what
you've done to me!' I remember saying very insulting things to him about
politics, just to provoke him into a reaction. I did that because he usually
was showing such a passive, non-reactive appearance. I symbolized my need for
dad by demanding the rulers to take care of the poor and minorities. I
proclaimed socialism because I wanted justice for all. (...) I never received
what I needed. I stood up for the socially oppressed because for my own
oppression
From The Primal Revolution:
I believe that the
war on drugs is part of the overall suppression that occurs in a neurotic
society. The first reflex of unreal systems, both personal and social, against
change is suppression. Drugs that aid suppression, which allow for accommodation
to a suppressive mode of life, are considered 'safe'. Drugs (like people) that
tend towards liberation, towards feeling and towards acute insights, are the
threat. There is much more evidence of the harm of cigarettes, evidence that
indicates the ingestion of the nicotine drug over a period of time can be
fatal. There is far less evidence that marijuana causes any harm. Why, then, do
users of marijuana go to jail? Why is it all right for a person to get smashed
on alcohol, endanger lives while drunk driving, and only have a driver's
license suspended, while a person in possession of LSD can go to prison, for
decades in some cases. I don't think that these are fortuitous events. They are
the result of living in a suppressive society where feelings themselves become
a threat. Indeed, feeling people would not accommodate to an unreal society, nor
would they go out and kill their fellow men. Feeling people are indeed the
threat to the business-as-usual group. (Page 112)
When I'm feeling
shitty, I can either not like me and try to figure out what's wrong with me,
and all the shit I should go through to get me to like me, or I can just feel
the pain. Many times I choose the mind trip, and cover up the pain. It hurts,
dammit! I don't want to feel it all the time. But always, sooner or later, the
'thinking it out' trip becomes ridiculous, and my Primals begin. (Page 136)
Give a depressive a
new outlet, a new job, a party, or a chance to go shopping, and all of the
inner-directed pressure now pours out in manic activity. He will literally
'throw himself' into his work. He will be 'happy' for those moments when his
work will make him happy. What has really happenedis that he has found an
outlet for tension - an outlet that continues to hide the Primal sadness. But
great release of tension feels like happiness for the neurotic, and the relief
feels better than that inner-pressured feeling that accompanies depression. So
we can see that some of us shut down early in life and, sans outlets,
become 'dead' and depressed. Others shut down and 'act' alive. If being the
'happy clown' pleases one's parents, then the act will continue. The child will
still be sad because he could not be himself. If there was no way to please, if
one was disliked, suppressed, and rejected at every turn, then deadness and
depression will result. Take away the 'happy clown's' chances to perform, and
the lurking sadness will begin to ascend. (Page 142)
Neurotic societies
further the dichotomy between the mental and the physical. There are mental
workers and physical ones (white-collar and blue-collar workers). In the
popular mythology, labourers aren't supposed to think or use big words, and
intellectuals do not perform physical labour. Both, being split, may be
exploited so that their brains and brawn are used and corrupted in the service
of the system. The division between mental and physical workers means that an
intellectual can study and work at something, coming up with solutions that
have no relevance to real people. The worker can remain at a mindless job,
never using his brain at all. In a real society there would be no dichotomy, no
split between the body and mind worker. Intelligent people would not tolerate a
neurotic, split society. They would not be content to work at unthinking jobs.
I believe that the neurotic split has been the reason that a truly
psychobiological psychotherapy has not been discovered heretofore. Mental
workers (psychologists) have tried to find 'mental' solutions that were
psychobiological. (Page 162)
From The Biology of Love:
Today's conventional
psychotherapist inadvertently and mistakenly reinforces the gating system of
patients by using the tools of concern, listening, care, guidance, and
advice. Therapy can become another act-out for the patient who is unconsciously
getting what he wants (symbolic fulfillment) instead of what he needs (feeling
the lack of fulfillment as a child). The implication is that you can
have good intentions and love neurosis away. If all those fail, the therapist
uses the more direct means of quelling need/pain by prescribing tranquilizers.
A therapist who tries to build a patient's self-esteem by telling her,
"You really are capable, you know," is actually encouraging the
patient to block out her real feeling of "I'm bad. People don't
love me because I'm worthless." By trying to "love" pain away by
being "nice," the therapist is fighting reality. He is functioning
as the brain gate for the patient. In Primal Therapy, we want to open the gate
and let in love, beauty, and life! To do that we must open the gate to real
feelings of "No one loves me. I'm unlovable. It is all so hopeless,"
etc. (Page 279)
Daniel Mackler is a filmmaker and musician in New York City. He
also worked for ten years as a psychotherapist in New York, though ended his therapy practice on March 1st, 2010. His writings focus on the
causes, consequences, and radical significance of childhood trauma. He
sees childhood trauma as ranging from the extreme, which is common, to
the mild, which is so much MORE common that few even notice it at all,
much less call them by its proper name. He views the norm in our culture
as being highly traumatized, and he views the average, and even
above-average, childhood as being extremely traumatic – and the average
parent as lacking both awareness of this and deep empathy for the child.
He sees our
world growing more pathological, confused, polluted, overpopulated, and
disturbed by the day – and he feels that to stand by and say nothing while
we destroy our planet is irresponsible and even criminal. Yet Daniel writes
with great hope – both for individual healing and for the collective
healing of our world. He seeks to offer a new perspective – on
relationships, on enlightenment, on celibacy, on the pathology of the
family system, and on the future of our species.
Take These
Broken Wings, a feature-length documentary film by director and
psychotherapist Daniel Mackler, shows that people can recover fully from
schizophrenia without psychiatric medication. According to most of the
mental health field, and of course the pharmaceutical industry, this is not possible. How little they know – or want to
know! The film centers on the lives of two women – heroes of mine – who
both recovered from severe schizophrenia. The film traces the roots of
their schizophrenia to childhood trauma and details their successful
psychotherapy with gifted clinicians.