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by John
Sat Nov 18, 2006 12:55 pm
Forum: Therapy & Healing
Topic: Stettbacher and Alice Miller: Doing self-therapy
Replies: 38
Views: 88576

Continuing on the concept of using dreams in self-therapy, here's a link. It's a bit commercialistic and has a "flaky" feel in it's presentation in my opinion, but skimming the info ( articles and excerpts) they offer could be good. More of an issue for people like me who have yet to develop the cap...
by John
Sat Nov 18, 2006 3:47 am
Forum: Therapy & Healing
Topic: Stettbacher and Alice Miller: Doing self-therapy
Replies: 38
Views: 88576

Dennis you certainly made an impact. I'm not sure really what to think about a lot of things. Like everything you have said in this post. It occured to me that if I had been given these insights 3 months ago I wouldn't have been able to admit or handle them. Everything is timing. Now? After what hap...
by John
Thu Nov 16, 2006 7:35 pm
Forum: Therapy & Healing
Topic: Stettbacher and Alice Miller: Doing self-therapy
Replies: 38
Views: 88576

Phil and Dennis, Good feedback and some stuff to think about. Thanks for the link Phil. I liked the solid clear and honest sound of Sam. Phone therapy is an option. With what I am doing now, I am making much greater strides than using conventional therapy locally here in Chile. The nine hours a week...
by John
Mon Nov 13, 2006 5:38 pm
Forum: Therapy & Healing
Topic: Stettbacher and Alice Miller: Doing self-therapy
Replies: 38
Views: 88576

Exactly. For example with all the RST work I found that the body had some serious detox-nutrition issues to deal with ( VanWinkle does a poor job of laying this out, other than saying "the body will detox itself"). I have a very active program of accupressure that is netting out truly great results ...
by John
Mon Nov 13, 2006 3:26 pm
Forum: Therapy & Healing
Topic: Stettbacher and Alice Miller: Doing self-therapy
Replies: 38
Views: 88576

Stettbacher and Alice Miller: Doing self-therapy

I'm a junior on this topic and am finding a lot of confusion out there. The very first review of Making Sense of Suffering ( Stettbacher's book) is this: Quote from review: I highly discourage anyone from reading this book, since the approach for curing it proposes simply will not work. How is an em...
by John
Sat Nov 04, 2006 9:04 pm
Forum: Primal Cafe
Topic: An Analysis Of The Limits Of Alice Miller
Replies: 30
Views: 55744

D.R.B. wrote: If parents who were just beginning to reconsider their child-rearing principles came across Daniel's forum I think they would recoil in confusion. Daniel wrote: I think if people were to recoil in confusion after reading my bulletin board it would really be disguising their desire to ...
by John
Sun Oct 15, 2006 12:16 am
Forum: Primal Cafe
Topic: Primal Therapy and Sex Differences
Replies: 42
Views: 79446

Good link Mojo, and it's good to see some people know the score. I thought about this and tried to understand the connection to me ( there is one). And to others ( there is one). I don't think it's one from which action could flow ( through which channels and for what? Who is changing and why? What'...
by John
Fri Oct 13, 2006 11:48 pm
Forum: Primal Cafe
Topic: Primal Therapy and Sex Differences
Replies: 42
Views: 79446

Dennis, you brought up a good point with this: My Quote: Neurotic defence means an uncleaned codependent ( primal) issue where someone ?out there? is going to hurt me. And it?s a projection. Yours: Unless there?s really someone out there who?s going to hurt you. For example, if the quality of the ai...
by John
Wed Sep 20, 2006 3:12 am
Forum: Primal Cafe
Topic: Primal Therapy and Sex Differences
Replies: 42
Views: 79446

Dennis, I had too hard of a time giving a concise answer on status, so I got some help from a friend, and his definition is below. It's so all-encompassing that I find it almost impossible to reel in. I'm getting it more ( especially when given the opportunity to discuss it). It's best to look at th...
by John
Mon Sep 18, 2006 11:42 pm
Forum: Primal Cafe
Topic: Primal Therapy and Sex Differences
Replies: 42
Views: 79446

Phil, Thanks for the link. I see the style offered is like that of a CODA (Codependency Anonymous) meeting. --------------------------------- Here we can share problems that we are encountering, or pass on things that are helpful and are working for us. So it's basically not a group for "analysing" ...
by John
Mon Sep 18, 2006 3:35 am
Forum: Primal Cafe
Topic: Primal Therapy and Sex Differences
Replies: 42
Views: 79446

Your post brings up such an important point Phil: Support. The challenge is finding it. And one other thing. A person with a lot of primal pain actually doesn't want to find it, because without it at least the old identity (usually that of a victimized child) can still live ( and wait endlessly for ...
by John
Sat Sep 16, 2006 4:06 pm
Forum: Primal Cafe
Topic: Primal Therapy and Sex Differences
Replies: 42
Views: 79446

Phil, This has proven to be critical for me ( changing buddies and therapists...moving things often in this context). I remember a comment from Dennis regarding getting around healthy people too. My problem was being with therapists and groups ( like my particular group of Al-Anon, and a powerful gr...
by John
Fri Sep 15, 2006 11:26 pm
Forum: Primal Cafe
Topic: Religious backlash against Science
Replies: 41
Views: 78797

I was reading Guest's post as well as many thoughts in this thread from some time ago, and it's pretty clear that there are no big differences of opinion on how dire things are...how distanced people have become from themselves. It's really odd to watch Latin America go up in flames too...in my quie...
by John
Mon Sep 04, 2006 10:53 pm
Forum: Primal Cafe
Topic: Redirecting Self Therapy Results: Fast?
Replies: 35
Views: 67945

Phil, I see your point about Janov's quote. From the way he writes though, I would say that he underestimates family systems. How many times have I heard it written that a woman must give her infant the love and touching required. In a severely codependent family system this is lethal to the infant ...
by John
Tue Aug 22, 2006 11:31 pm
Forum: Primal Cafe
Topic: Redirecting Self Therapy Results: Fast?
Replies: 35
Views: 67945

I see what you are saying Phil, and even though I am not someone who has done primal therapy, I think I grasp some of your point. I'm not clear on what you are saying about the internal process and your therapy, and I think it's because of my RST bias. The idea ( in theory) is that primal and RST bo...