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by Dennis
Wed Oct 25, 2006 1:07 am
Forum: Primal Cafe
Topic: An Analysis Of The Limits Of Alice Miller
Replies: 30
Views: 70394

An Analysis Of The Limits Of Alice Miller

An Analysis Of The Limits Of Alice Miller by Daniel Mackler is the first serious critique I've read on her. I admire Daniel's courage to have written down the contradictions and shortcomings in her writings, without ever leaving the side of the child. Former critiques I've read of other people, cho...
by Dennis
Thu Oct 12, 2006 1:00 am
Forum: Primal Cafe
Topic: Primal Therapy and Sex Differences
Replies: 42
Views: 96973

Your reference to ?Michael Moore Is a Big Fat Stupid White Man? seems to me a poor attempt from the publisher to cash in on some easy money. Obviously the book flopped enormously because what I?ve read in that review is very poor journalism, if one can call it journalism. First of all, why would it ...
by Dennis
Mon Oct 09, 2006 2:07 pm
Forum: Primal Cafe
Topic: Primal Therapy and Sex Differences
Replies: 42
Views: 96973

John, you're bringing in a lot of interesting and important issues, but it's going in too many directions. Perhaps codependency in Primal Theory doesn't get the attention it should have. It sure deals with defences directly. John, in Stettbachers book Making Sense of Suffering, he deals with codepen...
by Dennis
Tue Oct 03, 2006 11:59 pm
Forum: Primal Cafe
Topic: Primal Therapy and Sex Differences
Replies: 42
Views: 96973

I agree with Phil that this discussion is getting too theoretical. John, you've ignored the 3-month-year old baby boy example. How is his gender of influence in his needs? Could you give a practical example? You can theorize a long time on what women want, but what is it that you want? It's natural ...
by Dennis
Mon Oct 02, 2006 2:40 pm
Forum: Primal Cafe
Topic: Primal Therapy and Sex Differences
Replies: 42
Views: 96973

So, if I understood you well, you think it?s natural for a man to dominate a woman, simply because men have been doing that for thousands of years and that?s the way our brain is wired (?programmed?). But do you believe that a healthy woman prefers having a relationship where the man dominates her i...
by Dennis
Fri Sep 29, 2006 2:35 pm
Forum: Primal Cafe
Topic: Primal Therapy and Sex Differences
Replies: 42
Views: 96973

My world view has changed over the years and now I understand I cannot grasp the world. It's simply too big. Maybe we still try to bring everything back to the tribe, where everything and everyone could be understood. The world as a global village. Post-primal people or healthy people do have relati...
by Dennis
Thu Sep 28, 2006 11:37 pm
Forum: Primal Cafe
Topic: Primal Therapy and Sex Differences
Replies: 42
Views: 96973

Feeling is not exclusively feminine. Baby boys do not cry less than baby girls. Social structures do exist, for societies. But a three month old baby knows nothing about social structure, nor society, nor status. Though status seems to be important in our society that is based on hierarchy, I believ...
by Dennis
Wed Sep 20, 2006 5:06 pm
Forum: Primal Cafe
Topic: Primal Therapy and Sex Differences
Replies: 42
Views: 96973

John, you're not responding to my arguments in which I deny the importance of status and gender, within primal therapy. You just come up with examples taken out of the media or society, and make generalizations to make your theory fit in your believe system. I'm not denying the fact that status seem...
by Dennis
Tue Sep 19, 2006 7:10 pm
Forum: Primal Cafe
Topic: Religious backlash against Science
Replies: 41
Views: 95684

Trying to change the world can be a struggle, as I mentioned in a Janov quote before: I used to believe in God but now I understand my religion was more or less an attempt to get closer to my dad, who was a devoted, if not dedicated Christian. That would have been the way to close the gap between us...
by Dennis
Tue Sep 19, 2006 6:45 pm
Forum: Primal Cafe
Topic: Primal Therapy and Sex Differences
Replies: 42
Views: 96973

John, I don't follow you in this male status connected to identity. For most men/ boys, their first awareness that they are a man (boy) is when they are told they have a penis and women (girls) don't. The penis becomes their first identification for being a man. Now I know that in the US, 90 percent...
by Dennis
Wed Sep 13, 2006 12:48 pm
Forum: Primal Cafe
Topic: Primal Therapy and Sex Differences
Replies: 42
Views: 96973

This particular discussion you are having is going in too many directions. I don't understand the concept of feminized society as if men are the victim. I will believe (for example) that it?s always a ?good idea? to speak in a deeply emotional way with women ( their world) and that is ?intimacy?. In...
by Dennis
Mon Sep 11, 2006 11:31 pm
Forum: Primal Cafe
Topic: Primal Therapy and Sex Differences
Replies: 42
Views: 96973

I'm not sure I understand you this time, John. But are you saying that men have instincts and that they should act on them? Go out with a weapon and hunt? Beat up those who are lower in the hierarchy or challenge the ones higher? And that the women in society have forced men to make laws that prohib...
by Dennis
Sun Sep 10, 2006 10:23 am
Forum: Primal Cafe
Topic: Primal Therapy and Sex Differences
Replies: 42
Views: 96973

Small babies are not aware of their sex. It's the other people (adults and older children) that acknowledge their sex by social conditioning. The needs of a small baby are not gender related. You wrote: Often a man is punished in western society for not acting like a woman. Could you explain this mo...
by Dennis
Tue Aug 29, 2006 9:43 pm
Forum: Therapy & Healing
Topic: Question about RST
Replies: 1
Views: 11496

Hi Alan, You wrote: I felt a lot of it had to do with the fact that they had at least moderately demanding lives; spouse, children, jobs that required full attention etc. The type of disruption that can and will at times occur while primaling would not be a good thing. I think this is a major reason...
by Dennis
Tue Aug 15, 2006 12:04 pm
Forum: Primal Cafe
Topic: Redirecting Self Therapy Results: Fast?
Replies: 35
Views: 84043

Very interesting to read these posts of you, John and Phil. Yes, more feeling, more healing. But also more living, more connected and more real. John, you wrote: If loving is in our nature and a child does this spontaneously, wouldn't deep and complete grieving bring that back as the child is brough...