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by mimsy
Sat May 03, 2008 10:42 pm
Forum: Therapy & Healing
Topic: Stuck
Replies: 24
Views: 68431

Re: Stuck

Harigata - I'm sorry you're having such a hard time finding what you're looking for. The things you list as 'not therapy' actually *do* work for me, and are what have helped me away from the edge of feeling suicidal and imagining death as the only way to stop the pain. I hope you find someone to hel...
by mimsy
Sat May 03, 2008 1:15 am
Forum: Therapy & Healing
Topic: Stuck
Replies: 24
Views: 68431

Re: Stuck

Another thought: If the world is basically FUBAR, trying to fix ourselves individually is a waste of time. And since most of us can't fix the whole world, or even the relatively small portion of it that we personally occupy, what's left? What can we do? I don't know about anybody else here, but I st...
by mimsy
Sat May 03, 2008 12:59 am
Forum: Therapy & Healing
Topic: Stuck
Replies: 24
Views: 68431

Re: Stuck

Do you think there's anything that could help you? If you could say exactly what you needed, and you could somehow get whatever it was, what would that thing be?
by mimsy
Fri May 02, 2008 9:16 pm
Forum: Therapy & Healing
Topic: Stuck
Replies: 24
Views: 68431

Re: Stuck

I feel Janov has fallen pray to the old therapists' disease of EDUCATING (that is, being mean to a person in pain as retaliation for the same having been done to you - taking it out on the next generation, so to speak), and that he has bequeathed his malevolent terminology to.... everybody. I'm not...
by mimsy
Fri May 02, 2008 9:54 am
Forum: Therapy & Healing
Topic: Stuck
Replies: 24
Views: 68431

Re: Stuck

Without repression, a person can be faced with horrendous realizations.... not only about their own life, but about the way our society functions to cause emotional pain in all kinds of circumstances. Very true! One of my favorite quotes, from Lily Tomlin, says essentially the same thing: "Rea...
by mimsy
Fri May 02, 2008 9:42 am
Forum: Therapy & Healing
Topic: Stuck
Replies: 24
Views: 68431

Re: Stuck

Hi Bernard, It makes me uncomfortable to see both Dennis and mimsy lecturing you about your feelings.... as if you didn't know! I'm not lecturing harigata about his feelings - I think whatever s/he feels is totally fine. I was more trying to suggest that he might get himself caught in a frustrating ...
by mimsy
Fri May 02, 2008 8:35 am
Forum: Therapy & Healing
Topic: Stuck
Replies: 24
Views: 68431

Re: Stuck

Until I reached the point I let go and expressed the anger, agony and pain alone, fearing I couldn't do it alone. Nobody can feel the pain for you. I am not afraid of expressing these things - I've been expressing them over and over for many years now (almost 10 years) and nothing changes. I experi...
by mimsy
Thu May 01, 2008 11:27 pm
Forum: Therapy & Healing
Topic: Stuck
Replies: 24
Views: 68431

Re: Stuck

to harigata again, Last comment too blabby again. I think I know where you're coming from - the wish for death being about making the pain stop. The pain doesn't stop because nobody will LISTEN to your pain, you can't find anyone who will let you speak about it as much as you need to. So you're look...
by mimsy
Thu May 01, 2008 11:10 pm
Forum: Therapy & Healing
Topic: Stuck
Replies: 24
Views: 68431

Re: Stuck

Hey harigata, I'm 35 years old, and have been dying, a minute at a time, for 35 years. Of course it's ok for you to say this, it's what is true for you . For each of us, our own experience is our only real truth. As to whether it's ok to say it here , I guess that's up to Dennis. My perception is th...
by mimsy
Thu Apr 24, 2008 10:45 pm
Forum: Therapy & Healing
Topic: Stuck
Replies: 24
Views: 68431

Re: Stuck

Hi harigata, Well, whenever you feel like 'talking', let me know :-) And as far as wading through my first post, *I* even find it largely incomprehensible (no, not a self-slam, just acknowledging that when I write while both tired *and* over-excited I become incoherent). So don't feel compelled to r...
by mimsy
Thu Apr 17, 2008 4:48 am
Forum: Therapy & Healing
Topic: Stuck
Replies: 24
Views: 68431

Re: Stuck

Sorry my first post is so long and rambly - looks like I can't edit it, unfortunately. When I saw harigata's comments I got all excited thinking, "hey, this person thinks like ME!" and just jumped in, with a thousand thoughts going all different directions at once. Anyway, Harigata, I hope...
by mimsy
Thu Apr 17, 2008 3:32 am
Forum: Therapy & Healing
Topic: Stuck
Replies: 24
Views: 68431

Re: Stuck

Where can I find people I can work with? Not discuss and theorize and feel compassion and reach understanding and shit, but actually express pain, feel it, scream, bang on the pillows etc? People who are willing to consider buddy sessions over the phone? I'm looking for this too. Though I'm really ...
by mimsy
Thu Apr 17, 2008 3:23 am
Forum: Therapy & Healing
Topic: Stuck
Replies: 24
Views: 68431

Re: Stuck

Hi harigata, I came over here from Daniel Mackler's site (just recently joined) and I wanted to offer a few thoughts. I have been looking for people to do mutual 'therapy' with, without success so far - the best I'm able to do is find friends who are sympathetic about various issues and sort of 'tra...